A Loving Relationship is Like a Shark

Sharks have to swim their entire lives. This is because the motion keeps water flowing over their gills. Should they stop, they'd suffocate and die.

There is always new things to discover about your loved one. However, there should be no presure to behave like a shark; always doing new things. Never under estimate comfort. It's a fine line between pestering and double checking that everything is still okay. But then, never be afraid to ask.

Obsessions love company

I'm quite private, and prefer games for two. But I realise that there are a lot of people that need the input of peers. (Fetish clubs, and so on.) Trust is obviously key. (no pun intended.) At the end of the day, the games are meant to bring the two of you closer. If you find that isn't the case, talk to each other, and think again.

Being Mean To The One You Love

Sometimes it's difficult to explain how being mean can be fun. It's all part of a game. (See earlier post) But sometimes that's not enough. The one thing to avoid at all costs, though, is emotional blackmail. I.e. "If you love me you'd do..."

Don't be surprised if she likes it

The pinacle of the fanasty is when your play partner get into it too, right? Well... never forget they are individuals too. They have their own thoughts and ways of doing things. If they are being tolerant and indulging you, the least you can do is be tollerant back. Go with the flow.

Guys Accept Visual Keys

It's a biology thing. Guys are stimulated visually first, then by other things. If you find it difficult or a mood-kill to describe the fantasy, why not have a selection of outfits? Each outfit can then carry it's own detailed story. Other than the conversation to establish the fantasy, it should make getting to the play faster and seem more spontanious.

Fantasy Into Reality

Some fantasies should never be turned into reality, however much fun they may seem. Equally, one should never be afraid of a fantasy. Tell each other the story, no matter how bizarre or extreme. Just keep things you act out safe.

Don't forget to be intimate

Chastity is a powerful fantasy, but I think there still needs to be intimate contact with one's partner. Don't forget how you got to know each other in the first place.