A Loving Relationship is Like a Shark

Sharks have to swim their entire lives. This is because the motion keeps water flowing over their gills. Should they stop, they'd suffocate and die.

There is always new things to discover about your loved one. However, there should be no presure to behave like a shark; always doing new things. Never under estimate comfort. It's a fine line between pestering and double checking that everything is still okay. But then, never be afraid to ask.

Obsessions love company

I'm quite private, and prefer games for two. But I realise that there are a lot of people that need the input of peers. (Fetish clubs, and so on.) Trust is obviously key. (no pun intended.) At the end of the day, the games are meant to bring the two of you closer. If you find that isn't the case, talk to each other, and think again.

Being Mean To The One You Love

Sometimes it's difficult to explain how being mean can be fun. It's all part of a game. (See earlier post) But sometimes that's not enough. The one thing to avoid at all costs, though, is emotional blackmail. I.e. "If you love me you'd do..."

Don't be surprised if she likes it

The pinacle of the fanasty is when your play partner get into it too, right? Well... never forget they are individuals too. They have their own thoughts and ways of doing things. If they are being tolerant and indulging you, the least you can do is be tollerant back. Go with the flow.

Guys Accept Visual Keys

It's a biology thing. Guys are stimulated visually first, then by other things. If you find it difficult or a mood-kill to describe the fantasy, why not have a selection of outfits? Each outfit can then carry it's own detailed story. Other than the conversation to establish the fantasy, it should make getting to the play faster and seem more spontanious.

Fantasy Into Reality

Some fantasies should never be turned into reality, however much fun they may seem. Equally, one should never be afraid of a fantasy. Tell each other the story, no matter how bizarre or extreme. Just keep things you act out safe.

Don't forget to be intimate

Chastity is a powerful fantasy, but I think there still needs to be intimate contact with one's partner. Don't forget how you got to know each other in the first place.

Working Order

There's a lot on the Net about long-term chastity affecting performance. My view is: Everyone is different. As long as your belt fits properly, everything will be fine. Of course, this " use it or loose it" could always be part of the fantasy.

Chastity paradox

Paradoxically chastity play is all about sex. That's the thing about paradoxes, you can't adequately explain them. So in answer to the question, "Are you sure?", the correct response would be, "No, but let's do it anyway."

Are we ready to be discovered?

In a fantasy world our loved one will discover our secret desires, embrace them, and make them come true. Oh, if only it was that easy.

Don't do something nice, then spring the fantasy on them. No one likes being set up. 'I've done something nice for you, so you can do what I want' is tacky and manipulative. Pick a nutral time, (e.g. a long weekend) which gives your partner time to think and digest. Be accepting, if the answer is 'no'.

But then there's always the fantasy...

Try something new

Some games could involve elaborate machinery, but really, the fact that both enjoy the game is key. Try something new.

In a teasing game, everbody wins

One thing that's very difficult to imagine is the way your partner feels about their needs. Obviously communication is key, but words seem so inadequate sometimes. Orgasm is the most obvious way of seeing a sucessful completion of the sex act. However, in chastity play, the objective is different. The whole point is it's one-sided nature. You need some rudementry rules to the game. With teasing, everybody wins.

Chastity Tourist

I think I'm in the majority, when I admit to seeing very little of my own city. In these difficult times, how about being a tourist in your own home town?



P.S. Bea Flora is gorgeous. Check her out, she's all over the net.

Tell me a story

One way to share fantasies is in story form, in bed, having a cuddle.

Ratios (Very little to do with Matematics)

Remember games? Well, how about a ratio of more orgasms for her? Be careful, though. The game could become so sucessful, the ratio could end up quite high.

A whole lot of effort

When your lady goes to a lot of effort to make a fantasy come true, always remember your 'safe-word'. Or else, be very careful what you wish for.

Trial and error

Although I'm captioning my images with my fantasies, I'm mindful that love is a two-way street. There should be lots of trial and error - lots of error! This is not a bad thing. Ladies - tell us what you want. We'd love to hear it. Please tell us again, when we get it wrong. It's the only way we'll learn. :))

Games that help bind relationships

I think that adults sometimes forget how we used to form relationships as kids. Cowboys and Indians, Cops and Robbers, Doctors and Nurses. I think telling eachother fantasies is the adult equivalent. It gives a valuable insight into ones partner, and should always be met with patience and understanding.

Shaking is a good thing

Shaking is natures way of keeping us warm. Looks like snow in London, tonight. I always have my imagination!

Careful Wishing

We all wish for something, don't we? If we really did find ourselves with a djinni, would we be saying, "No, no, I didn't mean that. Can I have that wish again, please?"

Leather Coat And Thigh Boots

I've always wanted a girlfriend to show up dressed like this. Perhaps in some parallel universe she has!

Creative Escapism

I've always liked comics, right from an early age. Captioned images is the adult equivalent. I find that creating these captions on images I find interesting, helps me relax. Yes, it's escapism. It seems that only a lucky few live the fantasy. I think we all want to escape to a better place, and we all have our ways of getting there.