I suppose, we all want to be accepted for who we are? An essential first step, I feel, is acceptance of one's self. I think too many people worry about what others think. This is not to say the sensitivities of others are to be ignored. As the saying goes, as long as you don't scare the horses, or the straights...
I saw a lovely comedy called 'Gimme, Gimme, Gimme', about a gay guy and his straight girl flatmate. He was describing another gay guy he knows, and he used the phrase, "He's so far in the closet, he's in f**kin' Narnia." Such an image!
Do kinky people also have these closets?