When confronted with the unusual, the first reaction is denial. No, not the good denial as in 'Tease & Denial'. The denial of the existance of the feeling that denial is fun. The start point seems to be a woman pleasuring her man, by making him orgasm. How do you turn this stereotype on it's head? It's like you have to 'unlearn' to learn. Take a step back in order to take far more steps forward. Never be fearful of that backward step, it's still progress.