Why Me? Why Am I Like This?

Sometimes it doesn't pay to question things too closely. However, if your partner is more on the vanilla side - well - try to make cream soda! But how?

The obvious question right up there in the first batch is, "Why are you like this?", or similar. To which the response is inevitably, "I don't know." Yes, it's next to useless, and what's worse, it looks like you're keeping secrets. The 'hand caught in the cookie jar' look doesn't help, either. You can see one of two reactions galloping at you at high speed, can't you? Either: "Well, just tell me." or, "Well, if you're not going to communicate..." [walks off in a huff].

Head both these off at the pass, so to speak. Ask her to tell you her favourite colour. (If you don't already know.)(or confirm it.) Now the key question. "Why is that your favourite colour?" Obviously don't accept, "I like it the best." or other such subjective twaddle. It isn't possible to give a solid objective answer to something so subjective. I.e. something that is simply a question of taste.

[Never underestimate the power of twaddle! It is the only way to describe our likes and dislikes!]

Once you have your loved one in a floundering possition, ask, "Would you accept that kind of answer from me about chastity play?" Q.E.D. (quod erat demonstrandum - used in mathematical proofs, meaning - which was to have been proved.)

This is only a first step. Please don't force the pace. Give your loved one time to digest this. Tiny Steps. And remember, even after all the steps, they are free to choose not to play. They are individuals too!

Of course the fantasy...

Goals And Ambitions

It's always good to have goals or aims in life. Without something to look forward to, life can get rather tedious. Heaven is where you work together for the same goals.

Life's a Dream - Wake Up

Is the Internet more real than 'real' life? If life is a dream, you'd think we could dispence with the nighmarish interludes, that seem to be getting more frequent as the decades role past.

For those of you currently locked in chastity devices, can you spot the five differences between the two outfits, below?

Sea water corrodes stainless steel

For those of you who didn't know, sea water makes small pit holes in stainless steel. (Also, stainess steel is not magnetic. Honest! - Look it up.) This gave me an evil idea for a fantasy...

Admiring the human form

For those of you following my Blog, you may have noticed that I like the more curvy ladies. The sad fact is, those with this body type tend to be the most insecure. (Or is it just me?) I do hope that the more 'they' see that their body type is admired, the more confidence they will have in themselves, and the more they will display it for us admirers. Perhaps a nudist holiday? Too big a step?

Still Not Sure

One of my favourite fantasies is how it all began. The discussions are a huge turn-on, as the first trial and error conversations take shape. I also think that those that have experienced these first tentative steps have wisdom that they should be passing on to others.

As I've said before, never fear a fantasy. Also, communication is a two way street. You can listen as well as you hear. Everybody sing...

Both submissive? What shall we do?

I've been checking on my followers (Listen to me, I sound like a guru!) I'm very flattered by you all taking the trouble to follow my blog. Thank you.

There's one that caught my imagination: CollarMeMaster. I'm not sure if the login is shared, and if so, who first came to my blog, but reading the story so far made me ask some questions.

First off, good luck to all three of you. I don't think I could go through with such a senario in reality. (Remember, incurable romantic alert!) Ah, but the fantasy... It certainly is a fine solution to a not insumountable problem of: what to do when you are both submisive, you love each other, and want to play together too.

Talk to Me

Why do we read stories to children? Is it to show them we care? Is it to test their reaction to moral issues (e.g. Aesop's Fables, etc.)?

Tell me a story. Test what turns me on. Let your imagination run free. And in the freedom, I get to know what turns you on too. I'd love to meet a Shahrazad. And I'd promise never to threaten to cut off her head!

It's All Sex

I think I've made the point before; sex need not necessarily involve sexual intercourse. Giving pleasure involves a level of intimacy that can only strengthen a relationship. (Cowboys and Indian games for adults.) Some toys (water pistols and a feather headress) can help.

My advice: Never stop practicing.

Are Wedding Dresses Sexy?

This is a poser - or is it just me? A sexy dress is used to attract a mate. We all know guys are visual animals, right? So is a sexy wedding dress redundant? Or is it more a conceptual thing? Like getting dressed up in ones Sunday best?

I supose there is the thing about - all eyes on the Bride, as it's her day. There is something to be said about ensuring she's the most attractive lady in the room. But what's it for? And what about after? Is it all down hill from there on?

If the lady in the caption was my keyholder, she'd get more attractive with each passing day.

Is Black Fetish Clothing a Guy Thing?

My favourite colour is definately black. I've only met one woman that liked black and shiny clothes. All the others looked for red or other colours. Black was only chosen, because of it's slimming properties, not as a favourite colour.

For me black has a sinister look. All part of the gig for a submissive; to be subject to a black clad dominatrix. When I was younger, I never lept behind the sofa when the Darleks came on screen. No! Bring it on. Ah, but had they been black...

I suppose I could get a book on the psychology of colour. Na! I'll wait for a passing Lady to leave an enlightening comment. (Chalk up optimism to go with the obsession and compusiveness.)

Black Cross Service

Think what the Red Cross do across the globe. All good work. Now another 'what if...' What if there were a 'Black Cross' service? This would be a charity for masochists who need the tender (eh-hem) care of a sadist. And service with a smile. :-))

Trust - How far can you trust a friend?

If your beloved keyholder keeps letting you out sooner than you'd like, there are options. This one falls under the 'careful what you wish for' category.

Maintanence Contract

Of course there are ladies of negotiable virtue that offer a keyholding service. But I think Isaid before, I'm an incurable romantic, and such a service does not involve love. However, in a fantasy world, this does not apply.

What if keyholding was as easy to get as car insurance?

Romance for St. Valentine's Day

I find oposites very interesting. To some this image will make them run from the room, screaming. For others, there is something else entirely going on here. I've said this in an earlier post, but it is important and worth repetition: Never be scared of a fantasy.

[So, spotted the slim St. Valentine's connection? - The rubber hotpants are red, of course! ;-)]



P.S. I'd like to acknowledge 'MenInPain' for this lovely image.

Exhibitionist Keyholder

I think women who are comfortable enough to be exhibitionists in their own bedroom are sexy. Ladies, there is no greater turn-off than a question like, "does this make my bum look big?" There is never a correct answer, so don't do it; *P-L-E-A-S-E*.

You know a voyeur needs an exhibitionis like a masochist needs a sadist? Personally I like to be teased visually. This kind of fantasy is a favourite of mine.

Don't Panic

Is this just another tease, or did she really do this? The important thing is not to panic.

Should I be putting these kinds of ideas into the heads of Keyholders? (Were they already there? If so, I'm guilt free. There's lucky!) Oh, all right. Panic.

Inspired by a story by Tom Allen

Tom,

I loved your story "My Chastity Belt Story". I hope you write some more. I know I've tried to encourage you before. Maybe this image will help?

Are you sure?

If I met a fellow obessive compulsive, would I be happy? Would she? I suppose there are too many factors to consider in even attempting to answer those questions. I'd like to think I'm a good communicator, but I've been missunderstood too many times. The truth is, we all have a personal style; a way we apporach the world. The trick is to find someone with a similar approach.

Once you find such a person, the answers to questions like, " Are you sure?", become, "Oh, yeah. Do it. Do it!"

The obvious cliché springs to mind: Be careful what you wish for... You just might get it.

I'm a big fan of Venus In Furs. Not because it has furs, but because it's a love story. When you compare the writing of Leopold and the Marquis, the styles are very different. To me de Sade has a style like a fantasising schoolboy. But then I remember that he had to smuggle his work out of prison or a lunatic asylum. This obviously gave him little chance to edit and correct. Leopold on the other hand earned his living as a writer, and had as long as he liked to polish his work. To me he is an incurable romanic. (Me too! What are the odds?)

Both authors are well worth the effort to seek out. After all, they lent their names to Masochism and Sadism. (Coined by Richard Freiherr von Krafft-Ebing in 1886 in his book, 'Psychopathia Sexualis'.)

And now, what if Leopold was also into chastity play? Thank you Aria...































P.S. Not to sound too superficial, but Aria Giovanni is one of the most beautiful women on the planet. Check out her images, they're all over the net.

P.P.S. Of course I don't know the woman, so I don't know what she's like on the inside; as a person. But one can always fantasise...

Ultimate Window Shop

Some fantasies are great as a game, but not so practicle. You may have guessed by now, I love to be teased. What better way than to be teased by someone on the other side of a strong piece of glass? The ultimate window shop.

Things Work Out

Have you ever been in the position where you want something very much, but you know the odds on getting it are very slim? Sadly fantasies fall into this category too often, I feel.

With this chastity play game / fantasy / fetish, sooner or later the topic of permanent chastity comes up. I think today's image falls under the category: "Careful what you wish for".

Symptoms of Old Age and How Chastity Helps

Have you ever gone into a room, or up stairs for something, then forgot what it was? I'm willing to bet a fair number of you. Old age is gallopping over the horizon at you, and there's no escape!

Have you ever gone into a room, or up stairs for your chastity belt keys, then forgot to get them? No, I don't suppose any one has. So what does this tell us? Well, chastity helps increase concentration and improves memory, and helps to fend off the symptoms of old age. Yeah!

If your chosen keyholder is vanilla, try telling them this. Maybe it'll help you get more chastity belt time. You never know...