Wednesday 2 September 2009

Mixed Messages

Once you've confessed, and to your utter joy your partner has agreed to give it a go, slow down. It's very difficult to imagine what it was like for you at the beginning, when you first discovered chastity play. It's also very difficult for you to put a time estimate on all the research (yes, I mean porn surfing!) you've done. So don't blow it by trying to give her all the information at once. All you'll end up with is a good impersonation of someone drunk, with their head spinning, and none of the usual fun associated with social drinking.

What may be clear in your head, may be a mixed message in her's. My advice: break it down into points. Once you've given over a few points, ask questions. Don't treat her like an idiot. There is a world of differnce between ignorance and stupidity. To quote Mr Spock, "For everything there is a first time."

2 comments:

pantsdropr said...

I like your comments on moving slow once the subject of chastity has been introduced. That's the situation I am in. I have introduced the subject. We talk about it, have purchased a device and are slowly moving in that direction. Thanks for the reminber to not push it too hard.

kent

ptathuk said...

pantsdropr,

Thank you for the encouragement.

Have you thought of keeping a blog, to share the first tentative steps, to help others?

Hope is all going well

ptathuk