I've touched on the isea that not every lady is a natural domme; she may be doing something for you, which she knows you love. You need to think about giving her some time off. Here's an idea, if she too has a submissive streak.
I've always liked comics, right from an early age. Captioned images is the adult equivalent. I find that creating these captions on images I find interesting, helps me relax. Yes, it's escapism. It seems that only a lucky few live the fantasy. I think we all want to escape to a better place, and we all have our ways of getting there.