The one that loves you will do stuff for you, because she loves you. How this comes about is a big turn on for me. Have I mentioned that I'm an incurable romantic?
I think I've touched this topic more than once, already. However, I think it's a good one, and worth repeating. If your lady takes the time and trouble to attempt to give you your fantasy, go where ever she leads, for as long as you can. (Look up the safe-word blogs.)