Summer Holidays

So, looking forward to your Summer holiday, yet? Oh yeah, forgot about Easter. Oh well, there's chocolate to look forward to, I suppose. Girls like chocolate, I think, more than guys. I remember reading somewhere that when girls metabolise chocolate, one of the by-products is a chemical usually present in a girl's system only when she is in love. Dead give-away, when you think about it. When a guy buys chocolate for his girl, he really just wants to get her high! (On love!)

Ever been on one of those activities holidays? Never could see the point of that. My idea of a holiday is to rest. Ho-hum, each to their own.

Fiendish Imagination

Lots of fantasies and fetish scenes seem to involve a modification of some kind: behaviour in D/s play, and physical looks in fetish clothing - particularly and obviously corsets. The thought struck me: what would happen if as the guy is being trained to cum less and less, the girl is being trained to cum more and more? They do say that opposites attract!

Black & White

I saw a magazine the other day about black & white digital photography. "Now there's nostalgia gone mad", I thought. Then I did think about it. (I do this on special occasions.) It is an art form. You can get some very dramatic pictures, for example, by using a red filter on a landscape scene. It turns the blue sky black, but leaves pretty much everything else as is.

This image started life in B&W. I coloured it, because I like to fantasise in colour. I coloured another image in today's posts, too. Sorry, not prizes for guessing which one.

Needles & Pins

I can't stand needles. Well... they hurt! Bit of a silly thing for a masochist to admit, eh? However, I do find some piercing very attractive. I would love to date a Goth. Ladies, just form an orderly stampeed... (Isn't fantasy a marvelous thing?)

Madness Over For Another Year

I don't know about you, but thank (Diety of choice) that that's over for another year. As a kid, (when Santa was alive and well and having fun snowball fights with Mrs Santa, all year round), Christmas seemed fun. Of course we never knew what our parents had to do to keep the myth of the big guy in red with fluffy white trim going. Always more fun with kids around, even nieces, nephews and grandchildren. Makes the madness tollerable.

Madness! That brings me onto this post's topic. This caption was insipred by a story I saw on Alterboy's site. (Sorry, senior moment. Can't remeber the title.) It was about a loving couple. (My favourite!) She wanted to loose weight. (You all know how I feel about that!) Anyway, she wanted him to hypnotise her. He obliged, but also planted the suggestion that she would get more out of sex, if she was more dominant. As the sessions continued, and she was getting slimmer, he introduced the concept of chastity. Well, you can see where this is going to end up? I love this story, as it turns out she knew what he was doing and loved it. Don't you just love it when a plan comes together?

Season's Greetings

Next week is going to be very busy, for everyone. I hope you've been good, and don't get a lump of coal from Santa. Maybe this would be better...



Merry Christmas and Happy Hanukkah

Watching the Cogs Whirr, But Not Grind

Another thing I admire is a logical lady. (Yes, I've come across lots!) I love those that make that extra effort to communicate. A major part of my fantasies involve ladies that are on the same wavelength as I. It makes for a smooth relationship. Of course, this is my fantasy. And in my fantasies the ladies are in my head, so it's no surprise when they can read my mind!

One of my favourite films is Love And Human Remains. In it is a dominatrix that is an empath. Apart from being stunninly georgious, she can anticpate the guy's fantasy, and act it out accordingly. Heaven!

If we admit to ourselves that we are flawed humans, would it be so terrible to have your life partner inside your head, and you in theirs? Would the divorce rate drop to zero?

Nudity with Chastity?

One of the main things about rubber I like is the fact that when it's on tight, it accentuates every little nook and cranny. The person may as well be in the nude, but they're not. I'd love this to be part of my tease.

Girls Do Metal Work, Guys Cook & Sew

Those that follow this blog know I have a thing for oriental ladies and curvy ladies. Well, I also have a thing for smart, creative ladies. I admire skills in any form, but especially practical skills. For instance, I see no reason why a lady shouldn't be a metalworker.

Just look at here eyes. (Take me, I'm yours!)

Tell Me A Story

I love being told a story. I think this is very Fraudian, as I was often read to as a child. It made me feel secure. I also find it relaxing with sex. I wonder how many creative ladies are out there, who wouldn't mind getting me to feel all wonderful, after (or during) a god story.

Now I'm older, I realise that things can't be only one way. Fair's fair!

Something Different That's The Same

It's coming up to my one year anniversary, for this blog. I realise that those that follow it will see a definate pattern. My tastes may change slightly, with the seasons, but I'm still me. (You know, with the obsession?) I still like to caption images, but sometimes see the same message in the different images.

I've also seen a decline in the number of comments, but I can put this down to everyone gearing themselves up for the gift-giving season. I'm sounding insecure here, but I'm not.

I have two major conflicts constructing this blog, as I have chosen to publish my captions and some of my 'pocket philosophy': First, I have an audience - customers. I'd like to keep them entertained. Second, the blog is my creative outlet. It is (for the vast majority) an expression of what I like, not necessarily my customers. I of course love it when the message comes full circle that someone likes what I like. I. e. we are not alone.

I think what I'm trying to say is that I hope you don't mind seeing the same themes repeated. It's what I like.

That Dreamy Look

When you are confessing your heart out, but mindful of: what's in it for her? Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to achieve the same dreaming look on your lovely lady as the one below. Also, ensure that she does not explode in five seconds!
Give and take, boys! Give and take!

More Please

I've touched on this before, I think: Be mindful of burn-out. Being a domme is hard work, for the majority. I think it was Kraft-Ebbing that found only 5% of women to be truely sadistic. So, a change is as good as a rest, unless you're married to a sadist.



P.S. Bea Flora is a lovely looking Polish lady. She's all over the net, so check her out. Well worth the surf.

Importance Of Fantasy

It may be an obvious thing to say, but I think fantasy is an excellent way to communicate the things that turn you on. I also think it's one of those things that is obvious, only when you see it written down or said out loud.

I've seen several comments that report my blog has inspired some better communication, or even a confession or two. You have no idea how chuffed this makes me feel! But I have to remind myself that one should not take this first step too lightly: communication / confession is a continuous occupation. I can only wish you can keep at it, and good luck.

No Sex, Just Intimacy

Those that are new to the whole BDSM, S&M, D/s, T&D (pick an acronim, any acronim!) play can easily wander away from intimacy. I think it is essential that there are chill-out times, to discuss feelings. I also think that a lot of women will be surprised how many men still want to see a demonstration of affection, even at the receiving end of a crop or stap. (I'm obviously speaking from my personal experiences, here.)

Even edge play needs a 'come down to earth' afterwards. - A reafirmation of intimacy. It is important to remember that power exchange should bring lovers closer together.

Body Types

For those following my blog, you will know I have a thing for the more curvy ladies, (as well as the oriental ladies). Strictly speaking even the curvy ladies can be of different body types: ectomorph, etc. As an admirer of the female form, it is often overlooked that the ladies have preferences, too. So the ladies are better placed to see the male shape, and have insight into what kind of chastity device will work. - And perhaps more importantly, what will not work. (Reducing dissapointment.)

I see many posts in forums that ask too general a question. I'm all in favour of some serious experimentation, but it could work out expensive. I think it would be quite useful for the manufacturers to explain how they arrived at each design, and what body types are best serviced by which design. Just thinking aloud here. If you agree, pass it on.

Clothes Maketh The Lady

I love fetish clothing. You know, black and shiny? Well, I think one of the main attractions of rubber (latex) is that it can look like the lady is not wearing anything, it's so tight. (Sounds like a story I heard somewhere: 'The Emporess's New Clothes', or some such?) So, when I see other fabrics with this same quality, I can't help but be attracted to the look. It's all part of the tease.

Open To New Ideas

I think open mindedness is all too rare. Such a shame. There are great things that could happen, if only those with the new ideas had the encouragement and support to see them through. I particularly like this new idea...

More From The Orient

Those of you who follow my blog will recognise Tigerr Benson. (a.k.a Koko.)

Continuing on the 'she want to play more' theme, I thought this would stop me in my tracks, especially if I wasn't expecting it. (Surprises are best delivered this way!)

Play It Again... Sam, err George, err Pete...

My favourite captions are the ones that involve the willing participation of the keyholder. Even when things are new, you just get the feeling that things are going to turn out for the best, as she will take to the new game like the probervial duck to water. I'm an incurable romantic in this. I think there should be more in the world. I certainly never hope to be cured!

P.S. This lovely lady is a member of the FetLife Male Chastity and Orgasm Tease and Denial group. I do hope she doesn't mind being the subject of my inspiration, on this occasion. I will, of course, remove the image, upon request.

P.P.S. I've obscured this lovely lady's face, as she requested. I hope she approves, as I think she is just as lovely.

Poor Old Sod - Mind's Going

Don't know about you, but I think my memory is full, and it's starting to leak out in chunks. Loads of things that I know I knew, I don't seem to be all there. If amyone sees a bit of me, keep me there, until the rest of me catches up. Having more and more 'senior moments'! Thank you.

Explicit Vs Subtle

I think this is the most explicit image I've posted. I think it demonstrates several good points:

- I think power exchange games very beautiful, especially the exchange part. It makes for a level of communication that is seldom achieved other ways.

- I like the giving nature of oral sex. It is definately a D/s thing. (69 aside - but even then most of the time someone is on top or the right way up!)

- I prefer the more subtle images. Many of my posts involved dressed participants. I think this is more of a tease. Don't get me wrong, I love looking at naked ladies. I just like seeing my present wrapped, first. The more elaborate the wrapping (shiny, straps, etc.) the more I seem to like it. And I have absolutely no idea why!

Anyway, those of a more puritanical disposition, skip to the next post!

Prefer Dogs to Cats, However...

I think I respond to the loyalty of the Canine. Garfield may be funny, but I think he's just plain mean! However, for this young lady, I'd make an exception.

Involving Others In The Game

There is always the danger the intimacy is lost when the lady's attention must inevitably be in two (or more) places at once. Something to watch for, and guard against. This game might fit the bill?

Another Blast From The Past

This captioned image was posted to a site that has now long gone. I came across the image with a different caption, by a captioner I like. I knew it was my image, because the original did not have a key around the young lady's neck. I thought it was quite flattering that the captioner should use my altered image, rather than the original. It never ceases to amaze me how big the Internet is, and yet how small.

Why The English Talk About the Weather

Some of you asked about captions I did many years ago. I can across this one on another site, all alone. I can't even remember when I did it. (I have a backup somewhere!) Anyway, enjoy...

Friendly Competition

I've touched on the isea that not every lady is a natural domme; she may be doing something for you, which she knows you love. You need to think about giving her some time off. Here's an idea, if she too has a submissive streak.

What You Can't Have

Been too long since I posted a lovely oriental lady.

I think we sometimes want more of what we know we can't have. Strange reaction! But then the human animal is full of contradictions. (Just look at this blog - it's all about sex!) It's like when we were kids. When we were told we couldn't have the toy, we wanted it even more.

Obviously things from our childhood make us who we are, but don't draw too straight a line. You might think most of the planet had very strange childhoods! Takes a shrink to figure out the devious routes.

Anyway, back where we can't have this lady, if we're locked in a chastity belt - oh yeah!



P.S. Check out Tigerr Benson on the net.

Going Through With It

I'm all in favour of: "safe, sane and consensual". It's just that fantasy allows one to go off the deep end.

The Impossible Task

I love the office humour, "The impossible we do all the time, miracles take a little longer." There's something about an inventive partner that has one off-balance most of the time. Take good care of them, they're worth their wieght in precious metals.

Humour, the Aquired Taste

Humour is good for you. It releases endorphines, just like sex! It also completely dissarms a conflict. Very difficult to be mad at someone, when you're giggling uncontrollably. And there are so many types to choose from.

My favourite is when no one is the looser. The jokes where people just can't come back are just not funny to me. I feel sorry for the individual, rather than want to laugh at them. But if everyone has a laugh at no one expense, then I'm on board.

One of the things I do find funny is the way some ladies have a habbit of asking questions, to which there is only one answer. Guys: you know the one? "Does my bum look big in this dress?" Ladies, I like big bums! How am I ever going to win at this? Take you pick of the following answers:

- No. Of course not. (The coward's way out!)
- Could be bigger. (Slap!)
- Would you like it to be bigger? (Hands on hips.)
- How big should it look? (Two slaps!)
- Oh, yeah! (Tut!)
And my all-time favourite:
- It's not the dress. (1 - 2 - 3 - 4 - 5 - 6 - 7 - 8 - 9 - 10. And the winner by a KO!)

Anyway. Ladies, please don't ask a question to which you already know the answer!

Unable to Speak He Just Dribbled

Looking down on the couch I just had to listen to what she was saying. Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy!



Bondage is a lovely gift to give to a loved one. If obviously demonstrates a great deal of trust. Wearing a chastity belt (again, obviously) is that same demonstration of trust. I know, I'm just a big, romantic softy, at heart!

Making The Most Of Honesty

If you've read my blog for any length of time, you'll know that I'm a firm believer in 'honesty is the best policy'. I hope I continue to encourage people to be honest with one another. All too often in our lives honesty has the element of surprise. Just think how wrong that is.

Games, Games And More Games

There are many games all over the net, designed to keep you locked up for longer. Here's another one.



P.S. If you're wondering why the website info is on the slant, the whole photo was on the slant. I just straightened it. I thought the young lady looked better upright, rather than pissed!

I've noticed many photographers angle their shots. I know why they sometimes do it; its to get as much flesh as possible in frame. However, it does annoy me, sometimes. Anyway, I just crop the thing so it pleases me, asthetically. It's my blog, and I'll rotate if I want to! So there!

Decorations

Making a house into a home can be pretty exhausting, especially when you both work all day. Would this insentive work on you?

Taking Holiday By Going Nowhere

When one has spent an age making a house into a home, it seems strange to me that anyone would want to run away from it. I suppose there is the idea that meeting new people is good for us?

How about just tell all your friends you're going away, but then play some games at home? I would love to play house and home with this lovely looking oriental lady!

Arguing Deals

If only it was easy to negociate a deal. Some people love the thrust and parry of the argument. Some, (like me), prefer to get on with it. Obviously I don't think that a long drawn out negociation is fun. I do think that with any S&M / BDSM / TPE there has to be a discussion of limits. But it is a means to an end, not the end itself.

Don't get me wrong, if arguing is your bag, then good for you. It's just not for me. I look forward to the point, below...

Cricketed's Blog Gone

I've just noticed that this blog has been deleted by the blogger, or so the message says. I do hope everything is all right. It's always sad when something good dissapears.

If you feel like adding a comment of explanation, please do.

Professional Services

I love the description that Terry Pratchett gives to members of the Seamstress Guild: "Ladies of negociable virtue". Clearly domination services are not prostitution, especially if the services are like this:

Free to Make No More Descisions

I think it is very freeing being submissive. No more descisions; a complete rest from reality. (Rather like this blog - most of the time!)

Spare a thought, though, for your loved one. If they're not a natural sadist, they need a break too. Don't be selfish!









P.S. I'd like to thank the English Mansion for making these images. Please visit them. They are all lovely looking ladies.

More Help Than Required

In any partnership, both have to live with the descision of one. Some may be good, some not so good. If you found this upon your return home, how would you react?

Life's a Beach!

It's always difficult sharing your innermost fantasies with someone. Here I am in perfect annonimity. I don't have to worry about being pointed at in the street, or some such. It's safe here!

Fantasies on the other hand sometimes contain some danger, to make them exciting.

Special Requests of Love

I've always wanted a lady that could almost read my mind. I see so much communication go astray. I don't think honesty should'nt be that difficult. Am I too much the idealist? I hope not.

Sources of Ideas

It's difficult to know how this kind of play would be received by friends. In modern times its far easier, as there are so many web sites that have forums only too eager to offer insights. Sadly, I think such a boon reduces the oportunity for face-to-face communication skills. Not sure how to solve this one, other than to point it out, and hope anyone that reads this will take it on board. We live in wonderful, troubled times.

Introductions to the Religion

There are some religions that introduce themselves to vulnerable people, by parading a happy family in front of them. The sub-text is: you too can be this happy, if you join our religion. I can't comment on the motivations of these people, as I've only met a very small number. However, I think that the whole thing would be far more meaningful, and more in keeping with the central message of these religions (love thy nieghbour), if help was given unconditionally. Only then, when the troubled and vulnerable are stronger, should they be encouraged to join the religion.

Meanwhile, back at the fantasy. Getting ideas from another couple could help those new to the chastity fetish get a head start. It would certainly ease the burden on the budding domme.